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Younger Foreign Men Have Difficulty Dating Chinese Girls

Do Younger Foreign Men Have Difficulty Dating Chinese Girls?

China is a country which has a rapid major economic growth. A lot of foreign peoples come to china to work every year. Although English Language is not a major language in that country, but recently a lot of English Teacher come to China. English Teacher from foreign country like western country, still got problems to talk and have a relationship with chinese people especially the chinese girls. Many of thems have difficulty while talking with chinese girl.

Here is one letter posted by foreing ESL Teacher in China who want to date with a local chinese girl. He found difficulty in finding college graduates girl, however the most chiense girls do not beleive in monogamous serial dating.

This is the letter and the answer to the question about problems in relationship between foreing men and chinese girls. Completely taken from the site : http://middlekingdomlife.com/wp/ask-dr-greg/do-younger-foreign-men-have-difficulty-dating-chinese-girls/

Original Question

Dear Dr. Greg

It seems many of the ESL teachers in China are a bit, not sure how to say this, older. Not that there is anything wrong with that, but one of the draws of China seems to be Chinese girls are far more open to dating older, western men than girls are in Korea, where I am currently working.

My question is what if you aren't older? I'll be working in China at the age of 24. I may look 30 but word spreads soon enough. In Korea men my age are given a certain amount of slack, they are expected to be drinking and chasing women (and seeing hookers) on a regular basis. In China, will I be held to a higher standard as a foreigner, or will I be able to "act my age?"

In addition, would it be considered wrong for a man of 24 to have a girlfriend older than him? In Korea this is very rare.

Thank you

Answer

Traditional Chinese girls and their families believe that a future husband should be older, smarter, taller, and better educated than his wife. The acceptable age difference is, generally speaking, two to four years older. As is true throughout Asia, it would be very unusual for a Chinese girl to feel comfortable dating and marrying a younger man. It happens, especially if the age difference is not greater than a year or two, but it is rare.

Chinese girls who deliberately seek much older men generally do so to compensate themselves for having had ambivalent or terribly conflictual, often aggressive, relationships with their fathers. Although this applies to many Chinese girls, perhaps most, it doesn't apply to all. In addition, the preference for older men is typically overrepresented by girls raised by poor families in the countryside and, perhaps, girls who have a history of being cheated on by younger men. The hope is that by choosing a much older man, he is less likely to grow bored with her and chase younger women as time goes by.

As a rule, highly Westernized girls born and raised in international cities such as Beijing, Shanghai, and, to a lesser extent, Guangzhou—especially if their relationships with their fathers were relatively healthy—will not prefer much older men.

At your age of 24, you shouldn't have any difficulty finding recent college graduates, 22- and 23-years of age, who feel it is time to start looking for a boyfriend (read husband). The problem you might run into in second and third tier cities is that most Chinese girls do not believe in monogamous serial dating. That is, most are definitely not looking for just "friends with benefits" or casual sex (see unit on Dating Etiquette, Sex, and Relationships in Guide). Having just written that, and especially if you will be teaching in an international city, you will find many girls who are just interested in dating in the Western sense of that word.

If I were 24 years again and interested in just dating Chinese girls and "acting my age," I'd be limiting my job search to Beijing and Shanghai only--as a way to maximize my chances of finding those type of opportunities.

Best of luck to you.